Last week my husband asked if we could arrange a weekend trip to
Why the laughter? Let’s just say that his is not a close family – at least not compared to mine. I have a pretty big family, and while we don’t have family reunions, we do get together fairly often. When we see each other, we all hug and we give out that same round of hugs when we say goodbye. I met a few of my husband’s cousins and maybe an aunt and uncle about 17 years ago at a wedding reception. When we go to
We really didn’t know what to expect as we headed for the reunion location. I knew that his dad had four brothers, so we figured there might be 20 or 30 people at the most. Imagine our surprise when we find a large picnic shelter with at least 150 people, a big banner proclaiming the family reunion and someone making announcements over a sound system. This wasn’t the thrown-together picnic we expected. This was a well planned event.
Turns out they have been having this reunion on a fairly regular basis. Those attending come from my husband’s grandfather’s family. Apparently he had a lot of brothers and sisters, and almost each one had descendants who were present. The oldest was 91 and the youngest was six weeks old. My husband’s uncle was the first to greet me. “Don’t worry,” he said. “I don’t know who any of these people are either.” I think this might have been the first reunion where my father-in-law’s branch of the family showed up. As I said, they really aren’t a close bunch, though I think they genuinely care about one another. They just don’t want to spend a lot of time together. And they hate large gatherings.
My daughter was actually excited about attending the reunion. “Mom, I’ll get to meet a bunch of people that I’m related to and don’t even know,” she said. I can always count on her to put things in perspective. Whether we know them or not, they are family. I am a member by marriage, but she, like her dad, was in the blood line. Whether we chose to associate with them or not over the years, we were still a part of that lineage. If someone were to sit down and draw up the family tree, we would be one of the branches. It’s not like we can say, “just leave us out . . . we don’t really know them.” Like it or not, we are all connected and nothing can change that – not even being antisocial.
Romans 12:4-5
Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others.
Many Christians try to keep their distance from their brothers and sisters in Christ. Some don’t go to church at all. Others want to come to church and go home without interacting with anyone or getting involved in the work of the church. They come in late so they don’t have to talk to anyone and they sit in the back. When they hear the preacher starting to close the service or perhaps getting ready to make an altar call, they make a quick and discreet exit. I am sure they have their reasons. Perhaps they have been hurt by people in the church, either the one they currently attend or at a previous one. Sadly, this happens too often. Or perhaps they are struggling in their walk with God and don’t feel like they can contribute anything. Or maybe they are just shy and don’t know how to get involved. Whatever the reason, their lack of participation doesn’t make them any less a member of the church.
1 Corinthians 12:14-16
Now the body is not made up of one part but of many. If the foot should say, "Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body," it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. And if the ear should say, "Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body," it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body.
When you became a Christian (by asking Jesus Christ to be Lord of your life and to forgive your sin), you became a member of the body of Christ. Jesus is the Head and we are the body. You cannot say that you have a part in Christ but not a part in the body. If you have Christ in your life, then you are automatically a part of the body.
I Corinthians 12:21
The eye cannot say to the hand, "I don't need you!" And the head cannot say to the feet, "I don't need you!"
You need your church family and they need you. You are a part of each other. When everyone works together and uses their gifts and talents, then you have a healthy, growing church body that can be about the Father’s business. When you don’t get involved and you don’t use the spiritual gifts and talents God has given you, then the church is struggling in its growth and ability to function. Think about a person who has a paralyzed limb or perhaps is blind. Other parts of his body have to work harder to compensate for these non-functioning ones. The person can still lead a happy, productive life, but it will be a little harder for him than most people. We know he could do so much more if all his body functioned the way it should.
I Corinthians 12:24-26
But God has combined the members of the body and has given greater honor to the parts that lacked it, so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.
We are supposed to be a unified body that loves and cares for one another. If you hurt, I hurt, too. If you rejoice, I rejoice. We have people who serve in roles: pastor, teacher, finance director, secretary, usher, worship leader, etc. These roles are crucial to the functioning of the church, but they do not make one person more important than another. Unfortunately, some people get in these roles and start exalting themselves and getting the big head. They are putting their egos above God’s work for them, and that is poison to the body. Or you get a person who thinks they are not important because they don’t have a title. They act jealous or sometimes they withdraw and pout because they don’t think they matter. That is equally damaging to the body. We all matter and we all have a place in the body of Christ – we just have to find it. Verse 18 of 1 Corinthians 12 says, “But in fact God has arranged the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be.”
Romans 12:10
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.
I am very fortunate to have a wonderful, loving family. I have an equally wonderful and loving church family. One I was born into; the other I was reborn into. When I go to church, it’s just like a family get-together. We all greet and hug one another. We are happy to see each other and we share our lives. We work together to build up the church and each other and to serve the Lord. We come from different places and were born into different families, but we are now one family because we share the blood of Jesus Christ. We are his body and we are a part of each other. One day we will have the ultimate family reunion. That’s one I don’t want to miss! Will you be there?