Proverbs 18:24
A man who has friends must himself be friendly,
But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother
Is Jesus your BFF? (That’s “best friends forever” for you non-texters.) We sing several songs in church about Jesus being our friend. “Oh what a friend we have in Jesus” and “Ain’t nobody do me like Jesus, He’s my friend” come to mind right away. Jesus is the Lord of my life and He is my Savior, but I found myself asking, “Are we friends?”
Friends can be a very general term. There are probably a lot of people that you know that you really aren’t friends with. If you are on Facebook, take a look at your friends list. How many of these people do you really, really know? When I see someone on Facebook who has 400 or 500+ friends, it astounds me. There is no way you could have any kind of quality friendships with that many people.
When I think of a friend, I think of someone who knows me well, and I know them, too. We are always there for each other, whether we just need someone to talk to or someone to help us out in a situation. A friend knows my secrets, my hopes, and my fears. A friend understands when I have a bad day and I just want to be left alone – but I know that he or she is there when I am ready to be comforted. With a friend, I can be myself and we enjoy each other’s company. A friend will kick my butt and tell me when I am going in the wrong direction. A friend forgives me when I mess up. A friend will stand up for me and stand by me. A friend always wants the best for me and always has my back. We can read each other’s minds and finish each other’s sentences. A friend will laugh and cry with me. No matter how many miles or how many years might separate us, we will always be close in heart. As it says in Proverbs 17:17, a friend loves at all times.
When you think about these and other qualities of a true friend, we can see that we really do have a friend in Jesus. He is always there for us and He knows us better than we probably know ourselves. He will listen when we need someone to talk to and we know that we can pray and ask for help in His name. If we stay in fellowship with Him, He will give us guidance in our life. When we mess up (sin), we know that if we repent, He will forgive us.
When I think about Jesus and all He has done to change my life, I know that I have a true friend in Him. But friendships are supposed to be a two-way street. Did you ever have a friend that made you feel like you were doing all the work in the friendship? It seemed like everything always went one way – theirs. You always did the things they liked or always talked about their problems. This kind of a one-way relationship can drain you. As I thought about having Jesus as a friend, I wondered if it was a real friendship, or was I being a drain? I remembered a recent Sunday school lesson where we talked about how Abraham was called a friend of God, but I wondered if there was anything in the Word about being friends with Jesus.
John 15:12-17
This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends. You are My friends if you do whatever I command you. No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I heard from My Father I have made known to you. You did not choose Me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit, and that your fruit should remain, that whatever you ask the Father in My name He may give you. These things I command you, that you love one another.
I really can’t be what we think of as an earthly friend to Jesus. He doesn’t need my shoulder to cry on or anything else from me. But I can be a friend to Him if I am obedient to the Word of God. It was Abraham’s faith and obedience that made Him a friend of God. When we are completely obedient and do what He was commanded us, then we will be in perfect fellowship. He said that he would share with us what He has heard from the Father. With more knowledge will come spiritual growth that will take us to a new level in our relationship with Him.
James 4:4
You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God.
Another way I can be a friend of Jesus is to live a holy life. James cautions us about getting friendly with worldly things, because they will put us at odds with God. Some people try to walk with one foot in the things of God and one in the world. There are many practices in today’s world that have become common place and generally accepted that clearly go against the Word of God. The world would like to shut Christians up, but we need to stand strong for the things of God.
Luke 9:26
For whoever is ashamed of Me and My words, of him the Son of Man will be ashamed when He comes in His own glory, and in His Father’s, and of the holy angels.
You or someone you know may have had a fair-weather friend at some time in your life. Perhaps it was someone in your neighborhood that you played with after school who acted like they were your best friend – until other people came around. At school, in front of his cool friends, you were just someone who lived on his street. That’s not a real friend. Do you ever treat Jesus that way? It’s easy to talk about Him in front of our church friends. But when you are out in the world, do you let others know that He is your friend? When they take His name in vain, do you speak up for Him? Do you introduce Him to your friends so they can have the chance to get know Him, too?
I’ve heard the saying that to have a friend you have to be a friend. I know what a friend I have in Jesus. He is always there for me and always will be. But I can see that I could definitely be a better friend to Him. It starts with my faith and obedience and is reflected in how I live and conduct my life. If people aren’t seeing Him in me, then I need to re-examine this friendship and see if I am really living up to my end of it. I do want Jesus as my “BFF”, and that means doing my part and being a true friend to Him.